In nature we find constant examples in which different beings help each other to develop and move their lives forward together, in harmony and cooperation.
One of the examples is the clown fish and the anemone that while the clown fish can save the anemone from being eaten by other fish, the anemone hides and protects also the fish and gets nutrients from its feces. In the case of the plover bird and the crocodile, the bird feeds himself with the larvae and other leaches that he can find in the mouth of the crocodile while the crocodile receives a spa-dentist treatment from the bird. It is not an easy decision to stay in between the teeth of a crocodile, but it looks like the plover’s trust and braveness provide him with a natural supermarket and a win-win agreement.
Groups of whales or dolphins many times cooperate together for a meal that will benefit the whole group. Trees many times are whole communities of living creatures that directly o indirectly benefit from each other in a pretty balance relationship.
The examples are many and very diverse.
What’s happening then with us, human beings?
It looks like that even in our own houses and families competitiveness is the only thing that have space. (Many times in a very hidden and subtle way, but it is there in the background). Communication is almost a myth in most of the families (in my original family was not even a myth; It simply didn’t exist).
So, with this family picture, where is cooperation? Is it even part of the family o couples dictionary?
But, on the other hand, did anyone teach us how to create a cooperative relationship or family?
It looks like that, as humans, we are not able to create a real cooperation even between couples that we choose by ourselves.
Don’t you think that there is something wrong here?
Almost of my live I was observing very closely different families, trying to find a balanced family, and the truth is that I found one or two that were having a kind of nice relationship between the members, but there was not a real bond in between all of them. It was more from maternal, paternal or fraternal sense of obligation towards each other than from a real loving-cooperative place. I couldn’t understand why it was so difficult for families to create an environment for all-members real developments. Actually, I couldn’t even imagine that something like this could exist.
How to find harmony? From does the cooperation in nature comes?
Many people will say that from survival. But, don’t you think that we are in the same survival mode? From my point of view, families are almost an extinct species.
I just want to offer few numbers to give an estimation of what we are talking about. In Canada the rate of divorce in 2012 was 40% and in Sweden 55%. 35% of children in Canada will be affected by divorce.
It has been estimated that over 40% of all living species on Earth are at risk of going extinct.
We know that the planet is in a difficult situation. But not only the planet also all its inhabitants, as we can see.
We can see that families are “in danger”. Don’t you think that if we continue in this line of competition the human race -as something more than an angry and grey existence- is already in critical danger?
It is considered a LIFE to spend our time fighting in and out of our homes?
Is it, at least, the LIFE that we want to LIVE?
When we will be 80 years old and we will look behind, what will be the life that we will see? What will be will the picture of our existence? How do we want it to look like?
I would be very happy if some people would like to share what do they think about it.
I the next post I will try to give you more food for thoughts.