Creating our lives together – but, are we really? Part 1

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When we find a partner or we meet someone who seems to have potential to be our future mate unconsciously we draw a picture in our imagination about how our future together will look like. In this picture our tricky mind plays the game or “Let’s make him/her fit in our lives”.

(From now on I will talk about “him” as I am talking about my own experience as a heterosexual woman. But I want to say that I respect any kind of relationship based on love and free consent from both parts).

Along all my life, every time when I was meeting a guy that I was attracted to I was gathering “important” information as possible about him (trying to not to look like a crazy-desperate woman, even though many times I was clearly desperate to find the RIGHT ONE).

With this information I was able to create a picture of our lives together.

The process was more or less as follows:

The first step was to gather the right-important-information: Is he in a relationship? what does he like to do? how he was spending his time, does he want to have a family?

Most of the time there was something like “he loves football and to watch TV sports”. At this point my breath stopped. And just one second after this realization in my mind appeared the neutralizing sentence: “but he likes also travelling”. And then my breath was releasing again and the smile came back to my face. “Ok, it is not that bad, I will deal with it”. (even though I didn’t even want to have a TV in my life at all).

This process repeated again and again with different discrepancies I was finding.

Then, the second step was to go back to my feelings, usually checking: Do I see myself loving him? Will we be able to build a healthy family and relationship together? (Besides the football and the fact that I don’t want to have TV in my house…) “Yes! Probably we will manage!”, said my mind in action again. “He is a good guy, we feel clear attraction for each other… Yes! We will manage”.

Then I could concentrate in how we were sharing things like some hobbies (traveling, going out with friends…) For one of my relationships which latest almost 5 years I honestly cannot think of more than these 2 shared hobbies. We shared also some visions about life: we both wanted to have successful professional careers (in the same field) and have kids one day.

But there were also many places we didn’t share.

At this point, before continuing I would like to add that I really respect all the guys I had relationships with. It didn’t work and now I can see clearly why and why with none of the ones that were potentials to be one of my future partners would have worked.

The picture was: “Ok, there are things that we cannot stick even using the best superglue, but there are others that are not that bad and there are some that we can really enjoy together. It is true that he has not my life rhythm but probably it would be good for me to have the experience of chilling out a bit more and not to try to do everything… For sure it would be an experience!! Why not to try? I am not losing anything! and for sure I will learn from the experience. Over all It looks ok”, I was repeating to myself. “It would not be better with someone else. There will always be things you like and things you don’t. And he will think the same about you. So, don’t try to find the prince! You will be lucky if you find a frog instead of a pig!!!”

Suddenly I could see myself changing my priorities, moving aside of my life things that I really liked. “I really don’t need so much that walks on the forest, to go to have nice dinners in nice restaurants is also a nice experience, I can also go for walks with friends if he doesn’t want to come. Or maybe I can change them for trips to Italy. I really like pasta!! The TV… well, I don’t want it as part of my life but I know he really loves to watch sports on TV… Not EVERY SPORTS, just “almost EVERY SINGLE ONE”. Ok, maybe we can keep the TV in the corner of the living room and not to turn it on. It will always be more interesting to talk than to watch it. Maybe he will realize with the time”.

The result: Hello TV.

“Well… I know he likes politics, actually he is very charismatic and he knows about many things. I can talk to him about so many topics! It is true that about politics, I would like them to stay out of my life but he wants to be “informed”.. Ok, maybe if I use ear plugs…”

The result: Hello politics.

The result: Hello ear plugs (I didn’t need you since University, here I am again coming back to you…).

Along the time with him I continued growing, I kept moving forward, changing, finding new paths, finding out that Marketing would give me money and success but… it was empty.

Well I know I want to grow, change, move, fly… maybe it is not worth it what Marketing is giving me. That success concept maybe is not as solid as they sold me and I believed. Actually is not bringing anything to my life except money and a specific “respectable” idea of others about me. Maybe is not that important at the end…”

“Well, now I know that I want to grow, develop, find my real place: the place that will support me to smile more than cry or be stressed out”.  

In his case, the only word in his life that was including development was the tag of the next medicine he needed to take: When you DEVELOP a cold… 

Again I could see how the picture of our relationship in which I was trying to fit all the pieces of the puzzle was becoming something I wasn’t sure I liked. But we were together, and we were enjoying travelling… Italy will always be there… and the pasta, of course!

This process happened to me one partner after another.

In some of the relationships there was no TV, but computer or endless books that were separating us from one another for hours. Or a VERY IMPORTANT hobby of his that was life or death.

Now I can see that it didn’t matter so much who was the partner.

I even changed the “type” of guy I liked from Alfa to Omega… Nothing. There was always something that was not fitting. And it is not that I don’t want to be flexible in order to create something together.

What was happening was that in order to be with him I needed to become a different person.

And even more, it looked like the picture in which we were living and “creating” our relationship was a stagnant picture closed by limited frames in which, in order to add something you needed to take other things out. If not there would not be enough space.

There was no creation together. Just watching the creation of others: movies, Theater…

At the end it was like seeing others making love but not doing it ourselves…

 

Before finishing, I would like to send you a challenge. At the time all of these was happening in my life I was not able to see or recognise even 1% of  what I described in this post. If I would have read this post back then, I would have not been able to say: “Hey! This is what is really happening to me!!“. Instead I would have thought about the author: “poor girl, she doesn’t know how to choose a partner. I am sharing much more things with mine!“.

I don’t want to destroy any relationship or show that my relationship is good and not the relationship of the other people. It is not my intention at all. The only thing I would like is to open new possibilities of things and options in couples. And show that sometimes we live in the illusion of a nice partnership and it takes us a long time to realise that it is not that good or that we can add things that will make it nicer and more enjoyable. There is another way to build a relationship that no one taught us before. But this is a topic for another post.

Well so the challenge is: check in your relationship how many times you create something with your partner together and how many times you watch the creation of others instead of you both creating together. 

Let’s start with this and let’s see what happen! 

I will continue with the second part of this blog very soon!

With love and light! 

TO BE CONTINUED… very soon!

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Everything started with a very long hair…

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I would like to share with you something that I do with my partner. I never did it with any other partner before. Probably if someone would have given me the idea few years ago I would have not seen the fun on it. Or I would have thought: “He will probably not want to do it”.

Now it is part of my life and I enjoy it very much! And when we do it together in our room, very close one to each other it can create a very intimate, fun and cozy atmosphere that both of us enjoy a lot.

What you see here below is a drawing that Yam and me di done day when we were spending time on our “couple time”. We grabbed a set of colors, we put it on the bed and we started a cooperative drawing. What is that?

It is a drawing in which more than one person participate at the same time and altogether create a unique drawing made out of the energy of all the people who is participating.

In this case, the people were my partner and I. And we decided that what we were drawing would come with a story. So we started creating the story at the same time we were drawing together.

At the end we were so excited that we continued with a second drawing.

In the meantime the colors and shapes were dancing together in a very funny way. We laughed a lot with our crazy ideas.

Everything started with one hair… Out of the strong only hair a head starting to grow in a very special way: attached to a contrabass. And actually the hair on his head is what he uses to play the music from the contrabass. And it is so strong that when is a sunny day he uses the hair as sunglasses, to cover the sun from his eyes. As he likes people to enjoy life, he plays wherever he goes. So he travels to the mountains, to beaches, to forests with the all terrain wheels he has, bringing music and enjoyment to all creatures he meets on the way…

And he has a friend that is a flee that looks as a spider so we decide that it is a spider-flee that comes with him to all trips he does. And the spider-flee has antennas that can broadcast the music he is playing like a radio. So we have a contrabass man who travels and plays music and his radio-spider-flee friend.

And everything started with a very long hair…

And from here on I would like to invite you to cooperate and see what your imagination is bringing to you when you see these drawings!

Let’s create a story together!!

You can ask your boyfriend, girlfriend, friend, kids, family… to look at the drawings and create out of it a story together or well to invent one from the beggning. Everything that brings humour, good feelings and laughter is welcome! (Violence, aggression or/and abuse are NOT welcome.)

Feel free to send me your drawings if you decide to draw something and don’t be afraid to change the story or the characters! This is a life story! I will publish them on the blog 🙂 if you want to, of course. It would be great if you can send me a bit the idea of the story but if you cannot, no problem! We will try to imagine together what it is!

Maybe this will be the starting seed of a new way to do new things with your partner, your kids, your friends…

Enjoy!

Laura

lovesoulandmusic@gmail.com

With lots of love and gratitude

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I just want to give the credit that they deserve to the brave family who, no matter what, they are permanently supporting the project Healaura (www.healaura.com), moving it forward and bringing energy and love for us to continue our journey!!

They are the Cooper Family, they are also a non-profit family band (http://vivibemusic.org/) and they are the most amazing people I ever met!! 🙂 If you see them together you can see that there is something special there.

They have created from scratch the project were we have learned how to connect to our auras in a very pure way. With them and with the support of the energy beings that are connected and are supporting this project we are doing a very deep self development work that are helping us to have MUCH BETTER LIFE!!! And, as part of it, we are connecting and discovering our soul plan. No doubts, it is an amazing journey!!!

My life now is richer than ever!!!

With love and lots of gratitude for their dedication, love and support,

Laura

NOTE: in the website of their music you can hear a song in which Mother Earth is giving a message to humans. It is worthwhile to invest some minutes and listen carefully the words. The message is very strong and powerful.

A message from Mother Earth

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One of the amazing things that are happening in my life since I am aligned with my prebirth life plan and learning about how to connect to my aura is that I can channel different sources of the Universe. I ask them for support, I consult them when I need help or clarity and they help me out.

Today I wanted to know how Mother Earth was feeling about this post and if she had something to say about it.

And this is her message:

A Message from Mother Earth

No matter how far you think you are going, if you are not aligned with your soul purpose you will always have the feeling of being lost or not really have found the right place for yourself. You will look around you and your relationships with your kids, your partner, in your work place… will not be as good as you would like.

In the moment you find out about your life purpose and you start working according to it, you start creating the relationships in your life according to it, building your future in this planet according to it, then you will feel you have arrived home. You will not need to take a vacation to rest.

You will live on vacation.

If you remember, during the vacations not everyday is an easy day, but every day you do your best to enjoy. And when the vacation finishes and you look behind, you feel like: “wow, this was worthy it! No matter all the difficulties I am glad I did it!”

How do you want your life to look like?

Like a vacation, worthy to live, were you are free to choose with who, when and how? Or like a long consecutive periods of slavery with some days of freedom in between, let’s call it vacation?

It is your choice.

With all the respect for all creatures in this Planet,

 

Mother Earth channeled by Laura

Life in movement: but what type of movement? (part 2)

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I was traveling for around 15 months all over Asia and other different countries. For all the people who saw me, I was literally in movement. While moving in my scoter or by bike from my job to home and back I was again in movement. No doubt about it. Probably many people would have say that I was in intense movement as I was doing at the same time several courses, going to the gym, meeting friends, moving different projects, trips…

Along all my life, when I was about to start a movement, one of the first questions I was asking to myself was: in which direction? Is this directing me where I really want to be? Most of the times the question after was: do I really know where I want to be or I am just following what others taught me that is supposed to be the direction?

And the answer was always: “ok, I don’t know the answer to none of this questions but I am willing to try”.

For many years I just moved in a mode of searching for something else. The movement I was doing (the trips, the different courses and jobs I was doing) didn’t bring anything really special or fulfilling or life changing to my life. Even though I saw many different countries and cultures I didn’t find balance, I kept taking with me to all my trips the bag of traumas, sadness, bad relationships, fears… I always had. The environment was changing, the faces of the people too… but anything else deeper was moving. I was in constant movement and at the same time as stuck as always.

At that point I didn’t know that there was an option to be in constant physical movement and at the same time stay immobile, stuck in the same place. Now I can see that this was the place I was.

How come? How can it happen?

I didn’t know that there is a kind of movement, very powerful and accessible to every one that creates amazing results in people’s life’s.

This movement can change tears in a permanent smiles, loneliness into a community, a fear as big as an elephant into a very small microscopic particle that you don’t even feel anymore, a deep trauma or pain from the past into a future full of possibilities and development, a feeling of tiredness into full power! The feeling I had many times of “I can not do it”, “this is too much for me” into a “of course I can! Everything is possible!”…

This movement is the movement of energy in your life. And it has another important element: the direction. Movement but, in which direction? And for that, now that I am already in the way I can answer that: towards discovering and reaching your Soul Plan or Life Purpose.

When I decided to move to Canada I didn’t know anything about what I would do here. In my thoughts it was another trip to another country. I was thinking: “ok, I would live there for a year, enjoy the experience, meet face to face the people I am sharing the aura lifestyle with: the Healaura Community and go back to my country with a feeling of that I learned some English, new people and maybe something else”.

Everything was feeling uncertain. I was just trying.

I was already in the direction of discovering my Life Purpose, but still in the beginning of the journey. There were many things that at that point I couldn’t deeply understand. It wasn’t a matter of intelligence; it was a matter of my level of energy. There is information that even if they explain to you in the most clear and simple way, if your energy is low, there is no way you will understand the deeper level, and sometimes not even the most superficial level.

Suddenly, few days after arriving to Canada things started to fall into place -completely free of effort- in an amazing way.

In less than a month my life partner and me were feeling that we could build something solid, strong and in the same direction together, I was working in a job where I was genuinely being appreciated and I was contributing to others, I was in a deep developing process… I started to see how my life was starting to become full of meaning, deeper understanding and happier. It was starting to be something that I really wanted to live.

After few months I am starting my own business in parallel of the work I do in Healaura and I keep contributing to others. I enjoy every single thing I do in my life, I am in constant development towards the next step, I am receiving support in every matter in my life (more than ever), I laugh, I love, I am able to turn into a nice day what it was supposed to be a terrible day… and one of the main things and reasons why all the things above are happening is because I am aligned with my Life Purpose.

My partner, my work, my relationships… everything will help and support my development. We have the same vision and purpose. 

This is what makes the difference between being in movement and stay in the same place or being in movement and keep moving and finding new amazing things in your life.

Supportive smiles after a non easy day

Supportive smiles after a non easy day

 

Life in movement: but what type of movement? (part 1)

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There are many ways to be in movement in your life.

Which one would you like to be?

Are you moving as a spinning top?

peonza from flickriver Devansh Jhaveri

When we look at the spinning top we can see how fast it is moving.

Many times it is moving so fast that we cannot see anymore the lines that are carved in its surface.

It is moving so fast that you can even feel dizzy after a while concentrated in its movement.

But, have you noticed that at the same time it is moving fast it is looking at the same landscape, same situations, same images passing through…?    

At the end of so much movement, it is in the same place where it started.

Is your life like the spinning top that after so much movement you are in the same place?  Same patterns of failed relationships, same fears, same feeling of loneliness, same questions again and again, same routines, same conversations, same, same, same… Everything stays the same?

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Do you want to have an established route in you life? 

To have to: settle down and create a family you are not happy with to please your parents, have an office job because you studied for that and you cannot deceive your family, have a house and a mortgage because this is what they told us we need to do, go to parties because it looks like this is the way to have fun and enjoy life, to travel the world because this is what people does for vacation and it looks like it brings something to their life…

Do you need to follow success as it is understood in the culture you belong to because this is what they told you what success means?

You either prefer to be free to choose your path, your way, what to do, with who to do it, when and how…? To choose when and with whom to create a family without the pressure of the society? To choose what is success for you? 

To create your life in a way you don’t need to escape from?

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Do you feel that your life is like a kite? It looks nice, beautiful, fun, colorful… but even though it would like to fly farther it is impossible as there are almost invisible threats holding her, limiting her.

Did you ever feel free like a bird in the wild: knowing what to do, when, how, feeling confident, alive? 

If you look at your surroundings you will see many things in movement. But is that movement a movement forward?

Is this movement creating a change, an improvement in people’s life or in their surroundings?

Is this movement bringing more smiles to people’s faces?

Is this movement improving their capacity to create a healthy family or relationship?

Is this movement giving an alternative to people that will not use drugs to be in another reality, find paradises where to escape, find success in building where nature existed before, or spending hours in an office to make other people richer…? An alternative to tears, shouts, anger, envy, fights, abuse, stress…?

Please, stay tuned for the second part in which I explain what movement means 🙂

If you want I invite you to bring answers to the questions I ask in the comments below.

2nd Part Coming soon!

Why we love each other, a Happy Birthday gift

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Today is his birthday. We don’t celebrate so much birthdays. What we really celebrate are  jumps and movements forward in our lives. This is what it really makes us happy, when we reach the next level, when we walk a new step forward and we gain energy, and we go farther in the journey  of accomplishing our Pre-Birth Life Plans.

Even though we don’t celebrate it so much, this morning I drew a card for him. It is not the first time I do it. We are giving each other nice messages in a regular basis; sometimes written others while speaking… He is has brought it into an art. Everything that will bring good feelings is welcome 🙂

Today we woke up quite early. After doing some things -the card I gave him was one of them- he suggested me to go to the room to enjoy sometime for ourselves. The house was still quite. We had about 45 minutes to be together.

In the room my aura suggested us to say why we love each other, so quite and relax while renting in the bed we did so 🙂

This simple act brought a lot of beautiful feelings to both of us. We record it because it is always beautiful to reach one of this energy-giving conversations and listen it again.

And we want to share it with you:

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This is what reminds me that usually is not a matter of how long time you spend with your partner, but what is the quality of the time you spend with him/her.

Enjoy it!

With love and light,

Laura