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A “Simple” discussion… (Part 2)

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The same situation?

                                                                       A different approach?

Creating a new reality for both together

                                                                                  Let’s see together

Communication instead of persuation

                                                               Communication instead of persuasion

Looking at the big picture together

     Looking at the big picture together

Opening a new place where to try new things

                                                        Opening a new space where to try new things

For many people this second part can look like a representation of a couple that have a good relationship or even like the picture of a good day in a regular relationship. But if you look deeper into the situation you will see that in this second option about the same situation there are some significant differences:

  • CREATION: Both partners are ready to release their own ideas and look for an option that will help in the development of both. The reason is not because they are very good people. The reason is that they work as a unit of energy for the development of both. They know that both will win in such situation.
  • There is COMMUNICATION instead of persuasion, which almost 100% of the times imply manipulation.
  • FLEXIBILITY
  • OPENNESS to include any change if needed, any new option can be an option.
  • DEVELOPMENT: They decide to do an activity that will bring support and development to both of them instead of choosing a “spending-time activity”. This kind of activities direct the people to let the time pass in a more entertained way but don’t bring any support to their lives or any help to move their life forward. Our two lovely couple go further and look for something that will nurture their lives. And with this I  don’t mean that it has to be going to a museum or do “intellectual” activities. It doesn’t mean that at all. There are many activities like what I showed you some posts ago that can help both to develop and have good time together. You can read it in: Everything started with a long hair… 🙂
  • And much more!

One of the main things that makes a difference is that in this second comic there is CHANNELING. This channeling brought them in few moments alternatives they didn’t think about before about. Combinations that blew their minds up! Combinations directed to make them happier people, more smiley, more creative people…

Don’t you think that channeling is amazing? It is like having your own guide with you all the time, ready to help at any time. Ready to show you what you cannot see with your own eyes. And it is an ability that everybody can learn!

But I don’t want to convince you about anything, just share how the relationship approach, since I am able to connect with my aura has changed to better in a really significant way.

Now I create my relationship from very creative places day by day. There is always something new. Routine is a word that is not part of our relationship dictionary 🙂 (and this is also applicable to our intimate time… maybe this will be for another post 😉 )

Thank you for reading it!

With love,

Laura

PS: by the way, both comics are a real reflection of how things were solved and planned in my last relationships and now. The “Now” picture is the one related to channeling, the second part 🙂 and I would never want to change it for the first part of a Simple discussion…

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A “Simple” discussion… (Part 1)

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In my past relationships I was “discussing” things with my partner all the time. The picture of this situations was more or less as I describe below…

In our couple life we are constantly making decisions: the plan for the weekend, the education of the kids, the way we will spend you vacation the clothes we want for our bed, the house that will buy or rent…

What happen when we don’t agree with what our partner brings or want?

Is that simple?

Is that simple?

1. After exposing our plans we try to convince one another and show how good is the idea we have. Most of the times this conversations, more or less intense, involve certain degree of manipulation. We are usually not aware of it. Manipulation is so much in our day by day that it doesn’t call our attention anymore when it sneaks in between our words.

I am sure you are gonna like it...

I am sure you are gonna like it…

2. After considering the scenario one yield and let the partners idea go ahead and be the “winner”. At least for this time, for this week…

“Ok, we will do your plan this time, but next week is my turn.” In the background many times the thought is: I don’t like to do it a t all, but I am willing to suffer for you… that intense is my love…”

And the winning’s partner thoughts can be something like: “my partner really loves me! He/she is willing to suffer for me! To give in his/her ideas! It is so romantic…” 

My Plan. I was sure he would like it...

My Plan

3. The Day D: The “winner” is not happy, cannot enjoy the day D because his/her partner is not enjoying. Both can feel something heavy is in the atmosphere even if the partner is trying his/her best to enjoy.

A new thought come the winning’s partner mind: “THE LOVE he feels for me might not be strong enough to make him enjoy just by being with me?”

His Plan

His Plan.

4. The week after: The new “winner” doesn’t enjoy either. His partner is not enjoying.

“Maybe our love is not that strong…”

“Maybe we need a break…”

“Maybe I need more time with my friends…”

“Maybe…”

I didn't find THE ONE yet...

I didn’t find THE ONE yet…

5. “Maybe…He is not the one”

“Maybe … She is not the one”

They stay in the same place they where, same plans… the partner once is now an ex-partner. And the idea is: He/she wasn’t the one.

Did you ver think in this situations that it might be that we don’t know how to create partnership?

. . . . . . . . . . . . . .

And again, we go back to an endless circle of loneliness.

We go back to the circle of endless searching for the RIGHT PARTNER, THE ONE.

We go back to the feeling of: what’s wrong with me? Why I cannot find a partner?

But did ever anyone teach you or show you how to find the right partner?

How to CREATE a healthy relationship?

How many people  in your surroundings have a healthy and supportive relationship with their partners?

My partner wants to contribute to this post by adding:

“So, what did we see here? Each person had their own plan of what to do, which in the end didn’t really work out for either of them in both cases.
Look at the bigger picture for a moment, and you can see that actually, each person had their own plan for their life, and relationships, as a whole. Each of us does this. How do we create this plan and how do we know whether it is the right one? Once they break up, do they keep their plan, only to fail again when they discover that the next person doesn’t fit it either? And if they change their plan, does their future relationship change? Or is it just a different version of the same pattern?

Like everyone, I’ve made many plans in my life; for my career, my romantic life, my travels, my friends – some worked, some didn’t. Actually, now I can see that most of them didn’t. But when I met the Aura, I discovered what my plan should be, how to create it, and how to adapt it; and things have never been the same. It is very exciting.

Thank you for accompanying me on this diary of my journey! :-)”

Enjoy it and if you feel for that, leave us your ideas, suggestions… about the post and/or the blog!!

With love,

Laura